The Fall | a play not to be missed!

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Firstly, it is on for 5 more days!!! Go get your ticket NOW!!!

Secondly, I went to see The Fall the evening before Youth Day. So, I was already in the realm of feels. From the warning at the beginning to the final black out, I loved every minute of the production and was so engrossed in the action on stage! There isn’t much on the stage in terms of props (three table only, in fact) but the actors utilize everything and their own bodies so perfectly it never detracts from the moving stories that they share.  Continue reading “The Fall | a play not to be missed!”

The Child Is Not Dead x Mbali Vilakazi

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Image from 2016 #FeesMustFall protest courtesy of Thaphelo Masebe. | https://nxfg.wordpress.com/photography/

“The child is not dead, neither at Langa nor at Nyanga nor at Orlando nor at Sharpeville nor at the police station in Philippi where he lies with a bullet in his head.” — Ingrid Jonker

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Image from 2016 #FeesMustFall protest courtesy of Thaphelo Masebe. | https://nxfg.wordpress.com/photography/

It was the worst thing to happen to you.

You curled up for what seemed like months. You went back to work a little too soon. You lost your job. You drank. Got divorced. Left the city. You lost your home. Lost your mind.

And, after:   The grown men with big guns in uniform, the men who gunned them down.
And, after:   All the things you imagined for your children, things they would never have,                       things they would never be.
And, after:   The things you wish you had done differently. Continue reading “The Child Is Not Dead x Mbali Vilakazi”

Week 3 of Student Life

In this video I talk a little about stress and academic workload, the differences I have noticed between high school and university teaching, people and my introvertedness, and my adjustment to being in a catered residence as opposed to being in a self-catering unit as I had applied for (thanks UCT – NOT!).

Viwe goes to school.

Hey Rainbow Family!


I hope you didn’t miss me too much! Finally, you can see what I’ve been up to… the break wasn’t all bad 🙂 In fact there was a lot of positive things that happened and I am dying to share all of them with you!

For now: watch, subscribe and share! Pretty please, with rainbow sprinkles on top! 🙂

Go watch my video journal: Student Life Week #1

When One Plus One Equals Three – Anon.

Every morning, the first thing I do after waking up is reach for my phone. I want to check what the time is – even though I won’t remember once I check my messages. The first person that I usually text is my boyfriend, let’s call him Bob. Bob is loving, caring, funny, ambitious, and sexy. He takes great care of himself, and that’s why his six-pack is all over his Instagram page (relax, I’ll keep my boep sucked in). Bob is also polyamorous, which means that he is capable of loving more than one person at a time, and that’s okay with me. Since we’re in a long-distance relationship, our morning chats usually revolve around the quality of the previous night’s sleep. I can’t confirm or deny that my sleep is worse than a certain radio station’s 8 to 10 AM slot.

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Anyway, it was all fun and games until one reply left me with a new haircut. That’s right, Bob snatched my edges and then proceed to scalp me.

My boyfriend’s stepmother passed away.”

Now, I don’t have a stepmother, so he definitely wasn’t referring to me. I didn’t know whether to feel like:

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OR

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OR EVEN

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I was shook!

Bob has a whole other boyfriend that I knew nothing about.

Uhm, but you said that he is polyamorous, so what’s the issue?

Well, the issue is that when I entered into a relationship with him there was absolutely no mention of another boyfriend in this relationship. Depending on how you look at it, his mistake was not informing me about his relationship status, or my mistake was not asking about his relationship status. Either way, I have the kind of chest pains that cannot be remedied by a teaspoon of cough mixture. I feel like I’ve been lied to. I’m “Becky with the brush cut” (thank you, Beyoncé).

While I’ve never been in a polyamorous relationship (until now, apparently) I understand why people enter into them and I respect that. However, I think we need to remember that there are rules that need to be in place for everyone’s sake.
Firstly, before you introduce someone else to the relationship, check if your current partner is okay with it.
Secondly, make sure that the potential new addition is also okay with it. If everyone is in agreement, you can all have an honest conversation about how you’re going to conduct this relationship in a way that satisfies everyone that is involved.
Most importantly, make sure that your significant others know that you love and respect them. After all, this is a relationship and not a contest (unless you’re part of that reality show where  the men [or women] outnumber the roses). Ladies, polyamory is for you too, though I’m pretty sure you already knew that 😉

As for me, I guess I have a lot of thinking to do. In the meantime, I’ll be right here, all by myself…

Continue reading “When One Plus One Equals Three – Anon.”